I’ve been letting myself luxuriate in small comforts. Closing my eyes and feeling my entire body unclench while getting my hair washed at the salon. Focusing on my breathing while getting a pedicure, rather than doing some work on my phone. Reminding myself that I’ve worked hard, am always working hard, and deserve a few moments of letting my brain go quiet. It’s been nice.
My months aren’t always so glamorous. I stood up to watch my beautiful best friend marry her perfect soul mate, and in preparation, I had to, yanno, primp. I even shaved my legs—twice. She had the bridesmaids walk down the aisle to the instrumental version of “Helpless” from Hamilton, and it was wonderful. I do, I do, I do, I do.
Oh, and I did goat yoga. 10/10, highly recommend.
I hope you all had a happy October, and have a warm and fuzzy November.
What I read
Know My Name by Chanel Miller: From here on out, Know My Name is required reading for all college students. I’ve declared it and now it is so. Chanel Miller was known only as Emily Doe for years while she battled her rapist, Brock Turner, in court. And now she gets to be in the world, freely, as herself. This is a devastating and empowering read, and a monumentally important one.
“In fact I need you to know it was all true. The friendly guy who helps you move and assists senior citizens in the pool is the same guy who assaulted me. One person can be capable of both. Society often fails to wrap its head around the fact that these truths often coexist, they are not mutually exclusive. Bad qualities can hide inside a good person. That's the terrifying part.”
―Chanel Miller, Know My Name
The Checklist Manifesto: How to Get Things Right by Atul Gawande: A fascinating look at how important checklists are for the mundane and life-threatening jobs of the world. They keep patients alive and buildings from collapsing. Simple ol’ checklists with items like “is this the right patient on the table?” are magic. Common sense, and also magic.
What I wrote
At Book Riot, I got to write about Michelle Obama publishing a companion journal to Becoming. It looks so beautiful, y’all. I also compiled a list of 25+ of the best grammar puns, because of course I did.
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